As your relationship coach, I say let go of the idea that you are supposed to have a perfect marriage. Let go of the idea that she/he should be different. Let go of the idea that you should have physical intimacy all the time.
Let go of the box you have placed yourself in believing marriage is what you see on television or a fiction book. Marriage is hard work. It is give and take. You both are on the same team, cheering each other all the way to the finish line. Let me show you how it’s done.